Self Love

How To Be Even More Awesome Than You Already Are

There are a lot of really terrible people in the world. I mean, not you of course. You’re awesome. But a lot of other people? Yeah. They’re not cool.

It’s really hard to be as awesome as you and I. I mean it takes work to get to this level. Maybe that’s why so many people just don’t even try to be better people. Here’s what you can do to be even more awesome, or maybe these lame people should give these things a try.

Smile at people.

People you do know. People you don’t know. Just smile at them. Don’t be creepy about it, but if you make eye contact with people across a restaurant, give them a quick smile. Did you have a nice cashier as you were checking out at Target? Give her a polite small.

It can go a long way.

Listen to people when they talk.

No I mean really listen to people as they talk. Even if their story is about how they went through their grandma’s sock drawer, listen politely. Make eye contact, ask some simple follow up questions to show that you care, “Wow, so I mean, how old do you think some of these socks are?”

Even if you don’t care, show people that you do. It’s just a nice thing to do.

Bring a gift when you go places.

Going over to a friends house? Bring a bottle of wine. Hanging out with the guys to watch football? Bring some beer. It seems as though alcohol suits these situations best, but other small things can be great too. A small potted plant or bouquet of flowers. Homemade cookies, brownies… let’s be honest, homemade anything.

People will appreciate it. And who knows, maybe they’ll want to return the favor when they show up at your door.

Stop talking about people.

Okay, for real. What is the point? Maybe you’re truly not one to gossip, but every once and a while it just slips out when you’re with your gal pals. It happens, but if you notice that you’re talking about an individual do these two steps:

  1. Stop! Think to yourself, “Hmm, would I like it if I was the person in this situation right now?”
  2. Veer the conversation in a different direction.

That’s not so bad, right? Now doesn’t that feel good?

Tip a wee bit higher.

“But I’m already an amazing tipper”. OKAY FINE, then skip to the next one. But a lot of people are not. Really this goes for the good service you find. Servers, drivers, anyone that you’re tipping appreciates and remembers the faces of people who tip well, so why not?

Compliment someone.

Don’t be afraid to say something nice to someone. Most people don’t bite. We live in a day in age where people get offended by something that is said in the blink of an eye, so I know that sometimes you may be nervous to put yourself out there and talk to people. But if you really like someones jeans, or you see a mom doing a kick-ass job grocery shopping with three kids, or you run into one of your old, favorite teachers, tell them how you feel. Compliment them on the awesome job that they’re doing.

We need more nice people in this world.

Put your phone down for a bit.

If you are hanging with your friends on a Saturday night, put the phone down. You can interact with your friends human faces instead of their virtual ones.

I’m not saying you have to put it down for the entire time, but if you’re playing a game or you’re having a conversation with friends don’t worry about your phone. If people are talking and you’re liking things left and right on social media, are you really giving your friends the attention they deserve?

Hang out, talk, eat, and relax without the phone. You can check everything later.

Ask your host if they need help with anything.

When you go to a friends or families house for dinner ask the host if they need help cooking, or setting the table. It is a fact that 98% of the time if you ask your host if they need help they will say no.

Okay, that’s not true, but I mean it could be. Even if they do want help they’ll probably just ask you to peel potatoes or something. Eh, that’s not so bad!

Either way they will appreciate that you offered to help, or that you actually did.

Just be nice.

Say nice things. Try to see the positive in everyone and everything. Be friendly to people you know. Be friendly to people you don’t know. Help others. Just do good.

Our world can be a sad, angry place. We need more awesome people like you. And for those that are already awesome, why not be AWESOMER?

Bonus- Dress like a unicorn.

I mean who’s more awesome than a unicorn?

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Baby · Self Love

Here’s To You, Mama

You’re reading this. That means that you have survived the day (so far). You have made it to a point in your day that you will maybe get a sliver of time for yourself to read at least part of this. Maybe you won’t finish it because the milk will spill to the ground, or small people will start yelling, “Mommy!”. But that’s okay, because here’s to you for all the things you did today.

Here’s to you for preparing.

Preparing meals, preparing for sports, preparing tomorrows outfits, preparing the diaper bag, preparing for meltdowns.

Maybe you still weren’t even totally prepared. That’s okay, you can’t always be, but you tried.

Here’s to you for trying.

Trying the homework you were not doing “like the teacher does it”. Trying to understand why the baby was crying right now. Trying to make everyone happy all at once. Trying to get the house clean faster than it becomes messy again. Trying new events or activities with the kids even if you were nervous about how they will go.

You tried, and that’s all that matters.

Here’s to you for smiling.

Smiling at your coworkers even though you were up all night with a sick kid. Smiling even though you’re exhausted. Smiling at your teenager even though you knew you would never in a million years get a smile in return. Smiling at the woman that stared at you, judging you because you just picked up your kid’s pacifier and put it back in his mouth without really wiping it off.

Sometimes smiling is the last thing you want to do, but you did it anyway.

Here’s to you for helping.

Helping your daughter with her science project even though you don’t know the first thing about static electricity. Helping your mother-in-law get to her doctor appointment. Helping your co-workers with something that needed to get done today. Helping that lost dog in your lawn find it’s owner.

You didn’t have to do those things, but you did and they didn’t go unnoticed.

Here’s to you for knowing.

Knowing exactly what your son needed even before he did. Knowing how much time it was going to take to get from the dentists office to soccer practice on time. Knowing what to make for dinner so everyone’s happy. Knowing the last day the baby had a bath was three days ago and he’s due for another.

You knew, you always do.

Here’s to you for loving.

Loving your kids every second of the day even when you’re so angry at them you could cry. Loving your husband, your teammate. Loving your chaotic, messy life just the way it is.

Your love is the glue that holds everything together.

Here’s to you for living.

Living a life for others. Living a healthy life. Living a happy life. Living your life as a mom, wife, daughter, friend, coworker, human and doing an awesome job.

Where would they be without you?

 

So here’s to you, Mama. For every single thing you do.

 

Self Love

5 Things You Should Be Brave Enough to Start Doing

We live in a day in age that people get offended in the blink of an eye. Sometimes we keep things to ourselves at the risk of upsetting others. This attitude has not only changed what some people say, but the way people act. It has stopped people from speaking freely with one another even in a positive way.

We need to start doing more things that we haven’t been brave enough to do.

Compliment someone.

Do you ever see someone in public and think to yourself, “That shirt is adorable”, or “Her makeup is amazing”?

TELL THEM! What is the worst that could happen?

You would completely make someone’s day by giving them a compliment. You may even learn where they purchased it.

Don’t compliment someone just to compliment them. Be genuine. The world needs more nice, genuine individuals.

Don’t be afraid of small talk.

How many times have you seen an acquaintance at the grocery store, but avoided them because you didn’t want to have to deal with small talk?

Man up, and say hello. Even if a simple hello is all that is exchanged it’s better than the awkward aisle avoiding game you would have played.

I know that there are those people that talk your ear off. Maybe those individuals just need an ear, even if it is for ten minutes. You could make someones day by just lending an ear, or saying a simple hello.

Bring a neighbor a gift.

We had new neighbors that moved in behind our house, and a few months later had a baby girl. Other than polite “hello’s” here and there, we hadn’t really talked to them that much.

I had a cute outfit from when my daughter was born that she received two of. I thought about bringing that outfit over to my neighbor for her new baby girl, but kept telling myself, “No, you don’t even know this woman. That would be so weird!”

It wasn’t. I finally allowed myself to walk over with my daughter and give her the outfit. They were so happy, so appreciative and thought it was so thoughtful. They were so excited to see our daughter, and said, “I hope someday our daughters can be friends”.

Be there for someone when they need it.

A few weeks ago I stopped at Walmart real quick. The man in front of me was trying to buy beer along with a few other items. The very sweet, young girl cashing him out asked for his identification even though it was clear he was over 21. He said he didn’t have it. She apologized and said, “I’m so sorry, but if you don’t have your ID I cannot sell you this alcohol”.

You would have thought this cashier had just murdered his entire family. He blew up. Screaming and raging at her. She stayed polite and apologetic. The manager had to come over. It was quite an ordeal.

After everything cooled down and the man left it was my turn to cash out. As she quietly bagged my ground beef and ketchup, I could tell she was holding back tears. I thought of just quickly handing her my cash, and running out of there, when my mouth started speaking.

“You handled that situation well. I can’t believe how polite you were to that jerk, and how well you held your composure”. The woman behind me nodded in agreement. The cashier looked at both of us and said, “Really? Well thank you. I thought maybe I should have just let him buy it to make it easier”. We told her if that is her company’s policy then she did the right thing, and she was relieved.

If you see a mother of three struggling with a shopping cart, return it for her. If you see an elderly man trying to carry mulch to his car, grab it for him.

Don’t be afraid to help the good people in this world.

Buy something for someone if it reminds you of them.

I had a friend in high school that I haven’t seen in years. She is an awesome person. She runs a local farmer’s market here in town and is a great asset to our community. I see her here and there, but never really exchange more than a quick hello. I mostly keep tabs on her through our Facebook friendship, more than our human friendship.

The other day I was at Target and saw these cute dish towels that said “The Farmer’s Market is my happy place”. I immediately thought of her. I thought, “she would love these. I have to get these for her”.

Then I stopped myself. No, that would be weird! I haven’t talked to her in years. I don’t know her address. That’s so much work just to send dish towels.

No. It really wasn’t. I bought them. I messaged her for her address, telling her I found something that made me think of her. That alone made her so excited. From there we messaged back and forth, asking about each others families, and catching up.

It was definitely worth the $2.99 at Target.

 

The world will be a better place when we just remember to be a good person. It doesn’t matter if it’s big things or small things; just do good things.